These are some beautiful parenting tips and I loved the way a man born so many years ago has written with such an open mind.
I have no knowledge about Tamil literature. A few days ago a brilliant doctor mom of two, an ardent reader and an enthusiastic follower of my blog forwarded this piece of Tamil writing (now available in English paperback) to me.These are some beautiful tips on parenting and I loved the way a man born so many years ago has written with such an open mind. It would be utterly unfair to not share such profoundness.
Tirukkural by Tiruvalluvar ( a Tamil poet/writer) was written more than 5000 years ago. His contribution to Tamil literature is paramount. Today, it stands as one of those ancient works that has its tenants based on the ancient science of Human behaviour. Years later today these seem true and remain unchanged inspite of modern education and technology!
Hoping we all would benefit from these which are not ‘re-defined’!
SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS OF THIRUKKURAL
Parenting Tip 1.
If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react or react too harshly to his inappropriate behaviour.
Parenting Tip 2.
If your child is not taught to confide in you about his mistakes, you’ve lost him.
Parenting Tip 3.
If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice him more than you encourage him.
Parenting Tip 4.
If your child does not stand up for himself it is because from a young age you have disciplined him regularly in public.
Parenting Tip 5.
If your child takes things that do not belong to him, it is because when you buy him things, you don’t let him chose what he wants.
Parenting Tip 6.
If your child is cowardly, it is because you help him too quickly.
Parenting Tip 7.
If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command him.
Parenting Tip 8.
If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.
Parenting Tip 9.
If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate him when he successfully completes something and not when he improves at something even if he doesn’t successfully complete it.
Parenting Tip 10.
If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
Parenting Tip 11.
If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
Parenting Tip 12.
If your child is secretive, it is because he doesn’t trust that you won’t blow things out of proportion.
Parenting Tip 13.
If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.
Parenting Tip 14.
If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions.
Parenting Tip 15.
If your child rebels it is because he knows you care more about what others think than what is right.
Last words for parents: Parenting isn’t a practice. It is a daily learning experience.